When your friends have abandoned you……

Working the other morning, I was chopping up onions with Bobba Fett when he says to me: “Ashley, your friends have abandoned you, what is that about?”

It really bothered me.

It’s not that they’ve abandoned me, because they really haven’t. I haven’t abandoned them either; I still make efforts to communicate. We haven’t really been out together in a long time; since vaca this summer really. It’s just we are all busy with different things.

Best friend 1 is raising a son and trying to get her relationship with his dad on the right track.

Bf 2 is essentially living with her man, working and looking for a real grown-up job.

And I am the mess that I am.

But, there is more. We do not talk anymore, about anything. I had no idea Bf 1 and little Mr’s dad were trying to work things out again. Maybe she didn’t want to tell us because she would have been worried about our reaction or possible judgments. A good reason, since I have many and have shared them, but I would have supported her (like I have in the past) and do.

Bf 2 has become a secret squirrel also; it started really when we were still in college. I would share things with her and she would fail to tell me things. It’s a good thing she was awarded a scholarship; she deserved it and she didn’t have to hide it from me. More and more things I hear secondhand now.

I told Bobba Fett that they haven’t abandoned me; we are all just busy and in different places. It bother me because I hate changes. It’s like after we graduated hs; we just have to find a new groove, a new routine.